I spent the last few days watching the first season of the much celebrated teenage drama series 'One Tree Hill'. I'm not only hooked, but I've learn quite a lot of things along the way. It got me thinking about a lot of things in life. Here are a few of the thoughts I had when I was watching the series.
~ God gave men two very precious commodities: brain and penis. The brain functions as a tool for making intelligent, witty and humourous conversations to attract beautiful and high-powered ladies. Men use their brains in class, in work, on the field or court playing sports and playing golf. The penis functions as a tool for fathering children, to boost his ego and for making love to the beautiful and high-powered lady he calls his wife (noticed that I didn't use 'ladies'. I still prefer the utopian world where one man only has one woman). However, in such a day and age, it is presume normal that men have one or more lovers in his past before he gets hitched. I guess it really boils down to the choices that he makes. However, it is unfortunate that most guys can't use both these precious commodities at the same time. And it is even sadder that when it comes to handling women, most men like to think with their penis, not their brains, or even with their heart.
~ No matter how tempting it is, please do not make love with your sister-in-law, especially if your brother just divorced her.
~ There comes a point in life where you have a tough decision you need to make, and that decision determines your future. It is your turning point. And most of the time, you are forced to choose to do between what is easy and what is right. For example: you just finished your senior year in high school. You have a great girlfriend and you love her very much. You play great basketball and you received a basketball scholarship to college. Then suddenly, your girlfriend tells you that she's pregnant. The easy way out will be as such: dump her or force her to get an abortion. The right thing to do: marry the girl and raise the child. Hey, so what if you're only 18? That baby in her womb is your kid, and you have to take responsibility. Well, your girlfriend won't get an abortion, and you're thinking to yourself: I have a great life ahead of me. I can't let this child ruin my life. So you dump her and went to college. But here's the sad thing: You went to college, you met a hot chick in orientation, and in a month you got her pregnant, too. How hilarious life can be, right?
~ In life there are many 'could have beens'. I could have been an all-star basketball player. I could have been a college student. I could have married her. I could have been with him if I weren't so unsure of myself. I could have had a better life than this. I could have... But here's the wake up call: Life is not based on 'could have beens'. Yeah, you're right in saying that you could have something more. Yeah, you deserve more. However, life just don't give second chances that generously. You just have to learn to deal with the 'could have beens' and live with it. If you could have been a great basketball player, but you aren't, don't force your kid to do 10-mile jogs and weights and basketball practices as soon as he can hold a ball. Don't force others to live your dream and deprive them of their own dreams.
~ So you're a virgin and you told yourself that you'll wait until you really fall in love and get married before you have sex. Sex, to you, is this wonderful display of love and affection to that one special person, and it is a precious moment of bonding. I mean, who gets to see you naked and experience parts of your body that you never reveal to anybody else? Surely, you want it to be the man you love. So you're in love now, and you have no doubts in your mind that this man is the one. It's okay that he had a sexual relationship with his ex. It's wonderful that he's not pressuring you to do the same. He visited lots of porn site and probably had cyber sex, but when you got mad he went all out to seek your forgiveness. After all, what's in the internet is just a fantasy right? Then you found out that he still keeps the naked pictures of his ex girlfriend. You went completely ballistic and again he begged for your forgiveness and he deleted all those photos. You really want to make love to this man, but you're not sure whether you're willing to give up your principles. So you went to his house, and with just the two of you there you got married, probably with the stars as witness and the moon as the judge. After that you make love to him. It was just like the way you wanted it. It's beautiful. It's great. You're married to the man that you love and you've just been officially elevated to 'real womanhood'. So what if you haven't even finish high school, hmm?
~ Ever wished that you could start over? You see, you've made so many mistakes in life that it becomes your shadow. It backfires on you and on your relationships with all the people that you love. You've let so many people down, and although some of them have forgiven you, you feel like hell. No matter how many times you apologize, you know deep within your heart that the word 'sorry' won't change anything no matter how many times it is repeated. There can never be complete absolution. So you try your best to tie up your loose ends and you pack your stuff and you leave town. Just like that. So simple. When you go to a new place, nobody there knows you. Nobody knows your past and thus, they have nothing against you. They cannot judge you. You can start over and try once again to be a better person. You tell yourself that this is your chance and you don't want to screw things up. However, there are times when the situations and circumstances around us may change, but if we don't have an inner transformation, we are just going to be the same person as we were before and the same crazy things will happen and the same mistakes will be committed. You're just the same person as you were, but in a different place and a different time.
~ Girlfriends never break up. Usually we just bitch and bicker about each other, but we never break up no matter how serious the problems and fights are. Even if she lied, kept secrets, made out with your now-former boyfriend and broke your heart, you know she'll never have a clear conscience after doing all that crap because she's your friend. She'll feel absolutely horrible and will be begging for forgiveness until kingdom come. So it's really up to you. You can be this horrible, mean bitch towards her until you calm down and pick up the broken pieces of the friendship or you could just continue being a horrible, mean bitch until kingdom come. But then, who's going to go shopping with you? The guy you made out with behind the alley because you had too many shots of vodkas? Puh-lease... Of course, there are occasions where friendships never mend. I'm talking in general.
~ Have you ever seen a generational weakness at work? For example: grandfather has anger management issues, the father has anger management issues, and guess what, the son, too, has anger management issues. Well, it can be anger management issues, it can be alcoholism, it can be gambling, it can be womanizing, it can be 'pressuring your son to be what you could have been'... you name it. Now, it's tough to break this kind of cycle, because father will be like grandfather and son will be like father. Most of the time, you can't help it. You swear to yourself that you'll never gonna be like your father and your grandfather but as you go along life, you notice that you're exactly what you hate. And when you're at that point of realization, you have two choices: you can try to change, or you can be ignorant about it. However, it is best that the cycle is broken. That way, future generations won't have this kind of problem. For example: If you grew up in a family where your father hates your grandfather, and you notice that both of them are really exactly the same, and you're starting to look at your father's own inadequacies with growing feelings of resentment, you can either really try your best to love him so that the cycle can be broken, or you can continue nurturing that feeling of resentment until it turns to hate. And when you're over 40 with a high-paying job with a wonderful wife and great kids and you are not talking to your father, you'll realize that you've become the man that you hate. And that, my friend, is just about the biggest blow that life can hand to you, and it's handed on a silver platter.
~ Do not have pre-marital sex. No matter how much your friends, boyfriend, MTV and Hollywood are pressuring you, don't do it. At least, that's what I've learnt after watching the show. When engaging in pre-marital sex, you'll either lose friends (because you had sex with their fomer boyfriends or current boyfriends or even the 'old man' you met when you went clubbing), or disappoint your parents (because they walked down that same lane and they regretted it for the rest of their lives and tried their best to make sure that you don't end up like them) or get pregnant (which is just about the worst thing that can happen to a woman who's not married).
Watch the series, you won't regret it.
